I wasn't going to write this one.

This week, you already received three issues: the Fear Lines I crossed, the 56 lines that stayed, and what you taught me over this year.

That felt complete.

But when I woke up this morning, 12/12, exactly one year since Issue #0001, I realized I needed to ground myself in something.

Not a celebration. Not a retrospective.

A declaration of what I'm actually here for.

I came across two manifestos this week from people in the "transformation" space. Both well-written. Both built on observations that are 98% true.

And that 2% bothered me for days.

It wasn't what they said. It was the move underneath.

One framework says you chose your suffering before you were born. The other says you're running programs you never chose and can't trust.

Both contain real insight. Both name patterns I've seen in my own life and in every client I've worked with.

But both end in the same place: you need them to interpret your experience for you.

And that's where I get off the bus.

I've had asthma my entire life. Inflammation issues. Gluten and dairy problems. This year I did a radical health reset. Real progress. I feel better than I have in years.

But I'm not "healed." The conditions are still part of my story.

And here's what I've realized:

I'm enjoying the person I've become through this process.

The one who explores. The one who experiments. The one who refuses to be a victim but also refuses to pretend everything is fine.

That's the gift.
Not the asthma.
Not the inflammation.

But what they called forth in me.

I didn't need someone to tell me I chose this cosmically. I didn't need someone to convince me I'm running broken code.

I needed to trust my own agency.
My own sovereignty.
My own capacity to meet what's here and decide how to respond.

That's what I want to offer you.

When someone spends time in conversation with me, I want three things to happen:

They leave with more agency. Not more answers from me. More trust in their own capacity to find answers.

They leave with a clearer sense of identity. Not a new label I gave them. A recognition of something they already knew but couldn't name.

They leave standing on their own feet. Not leaning on mine. Not needing another session to feel okay. Solid. Grounded. Clear.

After someone finishes a conversation with me, do they trust themselves more or less?

That's my compass.

If the answer isn't "more," I'm doing it wrong.

The people who find their way to me aren't looking for another authority to follow. They're looking for someone to help them trust the authority they already have.

Not fixing.
Remembering.

Not installing.
Uncovering.

Not enrollment.
Graduation.

If this landed for you, you'll know.

And if you know someone who needs to hear it, send it to them. That's how this keeps moving.

Until next week,

-Coach Reg

P.S. One year ago, I wasn't sure anyone would read this. I wasn't sure I had anything worth saying. I wasn't sure if showing up every week would matter.

Now I know.

It matters because you're here.

Thank you for the first year. Let's see what Year Two brings.

As a celebration and a gift to you all, I’m hosting something special called the SPARK 360/5™ Experience.

This will be a 90-minute guided reflection where you’ll look at your year through four simple lenses: the Mountain, the SPARK Wheel, the Four Currencies, and your own lived experience.

Here’s the flow:

This is quiet, honest, introspective work. You’ll journal more than you listen.
Bring a notebook and 90 minutes without interruption.

Two live sessions on Monday, December 22. Registration is Required. Choose the one time that fits.

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