SPARK Insights by Coach Reg — Issue #0035

A few days ago, someone I just met made several powerful introductions on my behalf. The kind of intros that make your stomach flutter just a little, not from excitement, but from something else.

These were high-level folks. Accomplished. Polished. Confident. They seemed like they had it all dialed in.

And my very first thought?

"They’re out of my league."

Not “wow, what a gift” or “this could be great.”
Just the quick, quiet reflex of self-doubt.

The Story That Snuck In

I’ve been doing this long enough to catch it now.
That inner voice that says:

The voice doesn’t yell. It whispers.
But it whispers things I’ve believed for a long time.

That I have to prove something.
That if I’m not fully put together, I don’t belong.
That proximity to greatness highlights where I fall short.

The League Is a Lie

Here’s the truth I had to breathe into:

The idea of someone being “out of your league” is a story.
It’s not fact.
It’s not wisdom.
It’s not humility.
It’s just a belief — and like all beliefs, it’s optional.

Most of the time, the people we perceive as “out of our league” are just people we haven’t gotten to know yet. Or people who project one thing publicly and carry something entirely different privately.

I’ve coached enough entrepreneurs, athletes, and executives to know:
No one has it all together.
No one is immune from doubt, fear, or grief.
No one is above you.

They might have walked a different path. They might have more polish.
But they’re still made of the same stuff.

What the Invitation Really Means

When someone invites you into a higher room, pay attention.

It’s easy to think you’re being tested.
It’s more likely that you’re being mirrored.

The people I was introduced to didn’t just say yes out of politeness.
They said yes because something about me resonated.
Something about where I’m going — or who I already am — felt aligned.

I was seeing them through a story of hierarchy.
They were seeing me through a lens of potential.

What If You’re Already Ready?

That question dropped in like a whisper...

These aren’t motivational affirmations.
They’re deep, disruptive truths.

Because when you stop questioning whether you belong, you can finally start showing up as the person who does.

An Invitation to You

Here’s what I want to say if you’ve ever felt like this:

• If you’ve been invited into a conversation that stretches you

• If you’ve been introduced to someone who intimidates you

• If you’re wondering whether you’ll be found out or overlooked

Take a breath.

The room you were invited into is not proof you’re unworthy.
It’s a reflection of the version of you you’re starting to remember.

You don’t have to become someone else.
You just have to stop doubting who you already are.

This Week's SPARK Reflection

Where are you telling yourself a story of separation when you’ve already been invited to belong?

You may feel out of place.
But that doesn’t mean you’re out of alignment.

You’re not out of your league.
You’re just seeing yourself through an old lens.

Let’s update the view.

— Coach Reg