SPARK Insights by Coach Reg Issue #0025

Living a Life We Designed

Greetings from Pawleys Island, South Carolina — where Arlene and I are two rounds into a two-week golf trip.

After almost six months of on-and-off travel, this one feels different.

This isn’t a conference or a speaking gig.
This isn’t a client trip or a business meeting.

This is us. Living life on our terms. Choosing presence. Leaning into a lifestyle we’ve worked hard to design.

The mornings are slow. The courses are beautiful. And somewhere between holes 7 and 12, the deeper insights start to drop in — even for me :)

(Side note: If you’re into golf and good conversation, check out SPARK Tee Time — I'm making room for aligned players who want more than just a scorecard.)

As we’ve been playing these long, slow rounds of golf, I’ve had time to reflect — not just on life, but on the response to last week’s message.

The feedback was generous and encouraging… but more than that, it opened a doorway.

Several people reached out to share their own stories — decisions they had energetically made but hadn’t yet acted on. They told me my words gave them the nudge they needed. One finally sent the message they’d been holding. Another gave themselves permission to admit, “It’s time.”

That kind of feedback doesn’t just affirm the writing. It affirms the truth underneath it: that many of us are living in that invisible in-between — the moment after we know… but before we move.

And when someone else names it out loud, it gives us permission to do the same.

That moment of resonance became the bridge to what came next.

Grace in an Exit

Last week, I wrote about the moment before letting go — that invisible exit when your spirit detaches before anything changes physically.

Well, that moment became real for me.

I sent the email that marked the close of a significant chapter. A professional relationship that had meant a lot. One that had drifted out of alignment.

Similarly, one year ago, another chapter closed too.

I made the decision to step down from coaching basketball after 38 seasons on the court.

There wasn’t drama. No single incident. Just an unmistakable sense that it was time.
The same whisper. The same energetic shift.

I had spent decades mentoring young athletes, building programs, and creating lifelong memories. Coaching was never just about the game — it was about growth, character, and impact.

This, too, was a decision driven by energy. The sense that something needed to shift — and that space needed to be created for what was next.

Just like the professional chapter I let go of, this one had also reached its natural conclusion.

Sometimes, creating space isn’t about walking away from something bad — it’s about honoring something good that’s run its course.

It’s about choosing space for what’s next — before you know exactly what that is.

And I want to share something:

The response I received to that professional email reflected the version of that person I knew and respected. It was full of grace. I was treated with professionalism and care.

In a world that often dramatizes endings, these exits were filled with understanding.

A friend and stakeholder in the work helped me process the experience in real time. And what I came away with was this:

When you exit in alignment, even difficult decisions can land with peace.

You can feel the emotion, honor the relationship, and still choose yourself.

It affirmed what I wrote last week:

And sometimes, growth means walking away.
Not in anger, but in truth.
Not to escape… but to expand.

Roundtable Reflections

A day later, I stepped to the front of the room at Roundtable — the high-trust mastermind led by Perry Marshall.

I serve as Perry’s right-hand man at these events. My role is to support, facilitate, and pour into each member however I can — creating space for deep integration and authentic connection.

This time, the energy in the room was unmistakable.

So many members were standing at significant crossroads.

Decisions about team.
About money.
About identity.
About next chapters.

So I opened the session by sharing what I had just walked through.
Not the details — but the internal moment:

The moment when the whisper starts.
The gap between the inner knowing and the outer action.

And I offered this question:

One where you win.
One where you learn.
One where you grow.

In my case, I released a financial and time commitment. I freed up energy. I stepped into deeper clarity around how I want to lead.

Yes, there was loss. Maybe even a friendship.
But the decision was made from alignment.

And when you act from alignment, the next chapter always starts stronger.

I invited the room to reflect:

Because the longer we wait to act on what we know... the heavier the weight becomes.

Trust the Whisper, Release the Weight

So maybe you’re standing in that space too — between knowing and acting. Between whisper and movement.

Maybe part of you already knows the next move — but you're still waiting for a guarantee.

Let this be your reminder:

There are no wrong decisions — only choices that shape different experiences.

Each path offers something. A lesson. A letting go. A becoming.

The only “wrong” move… is staying stuck in what you’ve already outgrown.

Let go. Let it flow.

For me, I'm enjoying this slower pace for now and enjoying this life we designed.

Back next week with more…

Coach Reg.

SPARK Insight Prompts:

1) Where are you trying to "figure it out," when the truth is already whispering?

2) What would change if you trusted the voice — and let go of needing certainty?

P.S. I don’t know if I’d call this coincidence or confirmation… but within two days of making the decision I wrote about:

• Two clients booked SPARK Sessions

• Feedstories (the video company Brandon Boyd and I co-founded) picked up a new client and began conversations with three new prospects

• Perry and I decided to launch a new experiment we believe will serve his entire community

When energy is freed, it flows. Things move. Alignment accelerates.

But when energy is constricted — by fear, indecision, or clinging to what’s no longer true — momentum stalls.

Trust the whisper. Follow the energy. Let it move.